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Hate v. Jodi Arias

I’ve had many nicknames, but Travis was the first to make whore one of them. As exhibited in his G-chats and text messages to me, sometimes he even used modifiers such as “cheap whore” and “pure whore.” (I didn’t notice at the time I was pelted with it that the latter is an oxymoron.) When he would beat me down emotionally and spiritually with his verbal barbs, wounding in the way that only an aspiring motivational speaker could, the way that only a person who had my heart in his teeth could, he would use that word with such frequency that I began to believe him. He even called me that when he was being “nice” (also in one of his text messages).

His outbursts were always followed by an apology and a renewed determination to be better. I know he wouldn’t want to be remembered as someone who kept that word in his arsenal whenever the mood of misogyny struck. Apparently, this consideration is not important to those on social media who have christened me anew, combining “whore” and “Jodi” to make “Hodi.” This hybrid doesn’t bother me the way one might expect. Name-calling degrades and defines the person uttering the words more than it ever could the intended target.

What bothers—and really saddens—me isn’t being called a trashy name invented and used by trashy people, but that such people have now made this a part of Travis’ “legacy.” I know that if he knew how many people today perpetuate his worst self by sustaining this trend that he initiated, and that they do so in his “honor,” it would make him sad and ashamed. His dark side was only one aspect of himself, and closeted in the dark was where he wanted to keep it. (Sometimes, though it’s futile, I still wonder how different things would be if I had been allowed to go quietly off to prison for a long, long time rather than forced to trial, where the closet door was ripped off its hinges.)

But haters don’t care about what Travis would want.   Haters are not concerned about the high-minded ideals he espoused. Nor would they let a cause to which they give lip service stand in the way of the gratification only a hater can reap from gleeful expressions of hatred. Rather, they bear their torches in two ways: that of primitive witch-hunters (of course) and in the symbolic passing of the torch that keeps alive the memory of his worst self. They’ve made hate the hallmark of their support.

– Jodi Arias

 

59 Responses to Hate v. Jodi Arias

  1. Alexey /

    September 8, 2014 at 6:18 am

    Beautifully said!
    Jodi, stay strong, don’t let haters bring you down!

  2. Heather /

    September 8, 2014 at 2:26 pm

    Dearest sweet Jodi,

    There Will be a light at the end of this very dark tunnel, never forget this. Good Will triumph over evil. Feel hugged

    Always thinking of you <3 Loads of Love xxx Heather

  3. johnm /

    September 8, 2014 at 3:59 pm

    Dear Jodi,
    You have many, including me, that care positively about You!
    I pray everyday for You. I’m not over zealous about praying, my prayers are usually in gratitude. But I pray that you’ll be free of these circumstances and people.
    I hope you’ll stay strong!

  4. Mark /

    September 8, 2014 at 6:36 pm

    In the name of Jesus Christ I command all unclean spirits to come out of Jodi Ann Arias and proceed directly to the pit, never to return again. Jodi is a sweet spirited child of God, bought and paid for by the blood of Jesus Christ. She belongs to Him, not to you. You who are referred to as “Hodi” or “IT” by others are NOT equated to Jodi, you who refer to her, your host, as “brat” are to leave her and this world at once. In Jesus name. So be it. Amen.

    (re: “The Handbook on Spiritual Warfare” – Ed Murphy)

  5. M.christina Pawlak /

    September 8, 2014 at 7:18 pm

    hated the way people wanted to almost lynch you.this is not American justice.throughout time men have been committing the worst murders against women and to see women attack you verbally sickens me.I had a be like Travis and in my older age I’m glad his gone.Wolfgang was his name.I don’t think your attorneys represented you to the best.temp. insanity was what happened to you.never take verbal abuse from anyone.they’re just trying to make sure u believe ur nothing.the Mormons are showing to me what a funny kind of club it really is.and how much they don’t forgive.

  6. Christa /

    September 8, 2014 at 7:36 pm

    Jodi, honey don’t worry about what these closed minded people say! Don’t worry honey we on the outside have your back! To the people that call you Hodi they are just childish people who aren’t happy with themselves they call us supporters names too! I don’t know how many rude messages I’ve got in my inbox because I’m a member of your support pages slot of people make fake profiles in order to go comment on ur support page but mine is real I see nothing wrong with me supporting you nor do I care what these idiots think! Yes I get aweful threats etc. and what’s funny is the people that threatens me don’t know travis so why in the world are they doing this? I really don’t care keep your mind right for the next phase I’m praying some way some how you get to come home! Good luck jodi! We love you!!:) and btw in the trial when they asked should ppl feel unsafe with u in the world and u said only way they should is if they are trying to hurt me I agree hun I def don’t feel unsafe with u in society wish some way all of us supporters could be there to speak on ur behalf and could be there to show out support during the next phase! Good luck love!! Christa Friend

  7. R. Love /

    September 8, 2014 at 9:23 pm

    Well Jodi, you have summed it all up perfectly! Words do hurt but please don’t let them harm you anymore. You are above it all! When you have been to Hell and back like you have so many times the Haters are wasting their time and efforts. How that must bother them. LOL They are only hurting themselves with their misguided hate. One would think they would want to know the truth about Travis’s death instead of the lies that have been created by so many deceitful people. You have continued to amaze me with your love and thoughtfulness of others, even though they continued with their ugly degrading campaigns against you. Never let their words hurt you because you are loved by many and most of all God loves you and will protect you from any more abuse. Shake it off, Stand Firm, Speak the Truth and Carry On because we will not falter we are with you the whole way. I am so proud of your never-ending brave heart! I will be with you with my love, prayers and support until you receive your freedom once again. The truth will prevail in God’s time and We will be patient. Much LOVE to you!

  8. Carol /

    September 8, 2014 at 9:25 pm

    In quietness and confidence shall be your strength. – Isa 30:15

  9. David Allen /

    September 9, 2014 at 2:27 am

    You are so right i will never understand y people hate not know you Jodi you are strongest person i know stay strong never gave up

  10. Madeline /

    September 9, 2014 at 4:36 am

    Opinions are like ( @$$holes) everyone has one.
    Jodi, these people who choose to ” hate ” you, Do not care about Travis or his legacy at, all.

    They do not speak ,about his book ” Raising You,” They do not speak of planting a tree in his name, No.. but can pose , under false names, and spend the day, Spending hate, by trolling the support groups ( for Jodi)
    Maybe, some people who have read his book , could become inspired by it, and contribute, and post about these things.
    Contributions, kindness paying forward, are a few things ,I know I would love to hear, If TA was my brother,
    I wouldn’t want his legacy page be ALL about Jodi.

    Those people, are hurting the Alexander family..
    Just, as there are some people who claim to support the Arias family, but add on extreme stress,
    Toxic people, are toxic people. And THEY need to go.
    Doesn’t matter who you , choose to support.
    I don’t think anything will change, and the hate anger will continue. They have not forgiven, and they shouldn’t be throwing any STONES. Yet, they will continue.
    Maybe, in time Travis and his legacy, will be known As something, he would be proud of.
    A peaceful resolution, and acceptance –of the future
    . People who have joy inside their hearts, and know the power of forgiveness.
    ( we can all hope)
    Hang IN there Jodi-
    Xxoo your pen pal….

  11. Tracey Stern /

    September 9, 2014 at 5:09 am

    Jodi, I wish for all the world to read this. For you to have such insight into this rabid hypocrisy, for the strength to “call them out” while your life is at stake – you are amazing to me. With the continued beautification of a deeply flawed man, coupled with an archaic and misogynistic religious culture (and sadly our society in general) we will see more men like Travis…and a continued disreguard, disposal and disrespect for women.

    You are very brave, girl! 🙂

    Tracey S.

  12. Ronald Jones /

    September 9, 2014 at 5:43 am

    I am impressed by your stalwart support of Travis’ best qualities, your desire to keep his true legacy alive. It says something about your own personality and careful way of looking at the world.

  13. Amb. Joe /

    September 9, 2014 at 5:50 am

    Excellent ! You have a gift, talent & light that is unsurpassed by anyone. Stay strong, many support you.

  14. norwegian /

    September 9, 2014 at 6:07 am

    do you sell any oc your paintings? cant you tell in your own word what really happened? I am actuall a big supporter of travis.. but I feel no anger or hate towards you… I would really like to hear your side of the story.. even if you are guilty or not.. you are still a person… an a human being …

    Ive followed this case all the way from norway

  15. Pandora /

    September 9, 2014 at 8:10 am

    My dear friend Jodi,
    There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. When others cast stones and use the most vile wordings to insult you, rest assure that those are the people that are the most insecure, striving for attention, masking their weakness, hiding behind those vile name-callings.

    People that actually know you – know who JODI is – see the love, care, kindness, pureness of your heart and soul. Do not surrender to the vileness of people that thrive on hatred. Pity them. They have no directions in their life and are desperate to feel important. It is easier for someone to be mean and verbally abusive than to actually search for the goodness in his/her heart.

    Winston Churchill said “You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”

    Keep strong and positive my dear friend. There might be many that ‘hate’ you because they don’t know you BUT there are also many that love you BECAUSE they know you! 😉

  16. Sue Lutes /

    September 9, 2014 at 3:58 pm

    Jodi, first time I’ve read your blog. I believe Alyce was right about TA being an abuser, they usually harm someone either verbally or physically and then always say they are sorry…he was a true abuser, but he already had control of you, it was easy for him because he had contol over hundreds of people with his pyramid scheme. I wish you wouldn’t worry about TA legacy, he is what he is…a mean nut case and he pulled you in just so he could use you sexually. His sex ways were NOT normal, and you believed him because he could talk you in to anything! But his put downs were just one too much, “When he said a five year old could handle a camera better than you”, that hurt you so badly and that was the last straw! I can understand the hurt at that moment, and he started the argument when you dropped his new camera…he lost it, and you had to fight for your life…it was going to happen at sometime or other. I think he was extremely jealous of you finding a new boyfriend and a Mormon to beat. Please don’t glorify him, he really was a mean person and you were just too naive and wanted to believe him and be a part of his life, you were too good for him! I love and support you, just tell the new jury the truth about what happened and don’t cover up for Travis, please!

  17. Abigail /

    September 9, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    I support you Jodi. You are so right– the dark, negative energy behind name calling only begets more rancor within the speaker. You are also right about the witch hunters, though, whose actions have a real and devastating effect on those who are persecuted. Thank you for the perspective. Don’t let incarceration silence you. Keep making your voice heard. People will listen.
    Abby

  18. griz /

    September 9, 2014 at 5:39 pm

    always speak your truth .let your light end this darkness.your south paw pal ad fellow survivor .believe again .griz

  19. Danielle /

    September 9, 2014 at 9:03 pm

    Words are only as strong as the character of the person saying them. Sticks and stones. Stay strong and believe <3

  20. Jo Ardell /

    September 9, 2014 at 9:32 pm

    Jodi, I am sorry for the way that you have been used, and abused.
    Those who do this way, have nothing to be proud of.
    Please know, that I support you and that I care. You have a lot of people, who do care, and the ones who do not, do not matter.
    Injustice, and unfairness is not right. We love you, and you are, a survivor. Please stay strong. Wanting the Best, for You, because You Matter-

  21. Dale H. /

    September 9, 2014 at 10:04 pm

    Jodi, you have such a kind and beautiful heart and it shows to all of your supporters, for being able to have the strength to get past the horrible and hateful names from your detractors, but as usual you take the high road even under such terrible circumstances.thinking of you alway. Stay Strong

  22. Maria /

    September 9, 2014 at 11:42 pm

    Travis’ psyche was fragmented and permanently scarred due to his horrible childhood. And though his behavior and actions can be explained, it doesn’t mean they are forgivable. ”Deliberate cruelty is not forgivable” – Blanch Du Bois.

    As for haters, I remember a post on one of my friends’ FB wall: ” There are some people who always seem angry and continously look for conflict. Walk away; the battle they are fighting isn’t with you, it is with themselves.”

    Never forget there are lots of people out there who love you and support you, my sweet sister.

    We will NEVER give up on our Jodi!

    • Ken Ramnath /

      January 6, 2015 at 5:42 pm

      I agree. Seems like she was a normal intelligent, gifted by God and and intellugent person with a bright future who was abused and being destroyed by a mentally sick man who treated women like trash for their pleasure. Well the Bible says that the wages of sin is death and his abuse and condescending ways provoked his own death.

    • Ken Ramnath /

      January 6, 2015 at 7:36 pm

      I also loved the way she answered that Lawyer in court who was trying to capitalize on the media here but his act could not come close to make him a Perry Mason. He is one of the lawyers who are here for business and not Justice who use people and families as pawns in court to prolong cases with their foolishness for the sake of milking Clients or Governmnet money. Irony is these are people who are trusted to uphold the law and while trying people for murder who has been abused, these lawyers are the ones who abuse people and get away with murder through oppression but they want to convict everyone else for murder

  23. Edd Stack /

    September 10, 2014 at 12:32 am

    Very well said Jodi. Im really glad you let these kinds of things roll off your back. 20/20 hindsight always sucks. Most people don’t understand why you endured and stayed but I do.. I look back at my past DV relationship and still that little voice says … But if I only could have bla bla bla maybe things could have been different. No. It wouldn’t.

  24. Kenneth Skelly /

    September 10, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    Jodi my dear friend there is a quote from Act 3 scene 2 of the play “Julius Caesar” by William Shakespeare that sums up my feelings that goes like this: ” The evil that men do lives after them and the good is oft interred with their bones”, and I add ” – so let it be with Travis.

    • william walter /

      September 18, 2014 at 9:57 am

      In the end; “all will be well that ends well”…glad to see another shakespearean lover.

  25. James Taylor /

    September 11, 2014 at 3:48 am

    Well said, Jodi! You knew Travis so it would be impossible for most of us to speculate on how he might have reacted to the hateful comments directed at you as well as your supporters. I’m disappointed that Travis’s surviving family members refuse to speak out against it as I feel that had they done so during the trial and even afterwards that it probably would have ratcheted down a lot of the behavior.

    Whatever they have said or written about you, their behavior speaks volumes and says more about them than it could ever say about you. Their relentless cyber-bullying and harassment of supporters on social media and various blogs, their vociferous campaign to silence supporters on social media by using any means necessary including threats and harassment and their exploitation of Travis Alexander’s death to profit monetarily. Many of them claim to be Christians, but their behavior is the antithesis and juxtaposition of the teachings of Christ or any of the doctrines of Christianity in all of the churches.

    We continue to pray for you and your family. God bless you.

  26. Nick Francone /

    September 12, 2014 at 3:21 am

    You stay strong Jodi. I can only wish to have the strength you demonstrate. I know you were abused, I know you were protecting yourself. I will not allow myself to think dark thoughts about your sentencing. I trust you will try and do the same. I wish you peace and some form of happiness.

  27. Greg shields /

    September 12, 2014 at 10:23 am

    I’ve said this from the beginning. You loved him and he loved you . Tragedy occurred for a multitude of reasons but if you two together had gotten past the pain of being apart …. You would still be together today. Whether folks like it or not…when u enter eternity I am completely confident that Travis will be by your side. He wanted to be here on earth but let others and some internal issues cloud the obvious. Good luck..God Bless and talk to Travis in your prayers. He is listening.

  28. Sandra Webber /

    September 13, 2014 at 4:24 pm

    Jodi,

    I am glad to see you making this statement. Some, many in fact, may disagree, but to me it shows that you are slowly, very slowly, realizing that you never deserved those names from Travis. It is an impossible spot you are in, it seems. Because of course, you feel remorse for what eventually happened, but defending one’s life is a right we all have. You had, and will always have the right to defend your life. From Travis. And from Juan Martinez. Keep talking, Jodi. Many on your side, and on the side of justice, are listening.

  29. Very important message /

    September 14, 2014 at 6:04 am

    One thing I know Jodi being a female who wants to feel loved and has a high sense of entitlement , is how your outrageous love for him has concealed your view and you were drowned in the heaven of feelings towards him that you and I sadly say this allowed him to continually hurt you , you should’ve set limits , bailed yourself out and simply said good bye , he wasn’t a guardian or a caregiver of yours , he was an on again off again friend , I am not trying to blame it all on you but you should’ve sought help even legally if the pain he was causing you made you feel the way you did &drove you away , love is for god and only God all human shall leave or part with death , you put too much weight into someone that beyond his will had no mutual feelings , God is great , and I feel what you are going through I cry when I watch your trial , your mother and dad, PLEASE it’s all obvious that what you had gone though wasn’t at all normal , could it be a “Brief Psychotic Episode” I wonder , with the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder has the episode of rage that you experienced ever been described within the latter entity ? This really needs to be re visited , I just hope that justice for both of u prevails , Amen .

    • Jodi Arias /

      December 23, 2014 at 7:17 am

      Women who have a “high sense of entitlement” do not tolerate consistently poor treatment in a relationship; and if I’d had a “high sense of entitlement” rather than low-to-no self-esteem, I would never have given TA the time of day.

      The first time I remember hearing the term “self-esteem,” I was already in high school. It was said in class, and I had no idea what it meant. I thought it had something to do with “steam.” I had a lot to learn.

      I am determined not to let my nieces, or any young girl I can help, grow up without self-esteem being instilled and reinforced. It will not be a foreign concept to them. They will hear of and know the term, as well as understand its meaning and importance–well before high school.

      • Ken Ramnath /

        January 6, 2015 at 5:57 pm

        You dont respond to men who down grade you as a sex slave for them. You were allowing yourself to be belittled as an intelligent woman, you should have observed his condescending ways but they say love is blind. Why do we love peopke like these who treat us like garbage for their ego and pleasure? Dont stop your painting. Do as much as you can do from your cell and library. You are gifted and your art sbows beauty and passion….

  30. Raymond /

    September 14, 2014 at 2:57 pm

    My Mom’s husband was very abusive, he beat her up in front of me for years, my Mom would always find excuses for him and would always go back to him. At one point he stopped beating her physically but his verbal abuse were almost worst. I fought him when I was 13 years old because I felt like a coward for shutting up all these years then I went to live with my grandmother. I am sorry things turned out the way they did in your case, Travis didn’t need to die and you don’t either. Two wrongs don’t make a right! I have sat in a prison cell and know how it feels. One thing that kept me going in the hard times was to accept that yesterday is gone and I can’t change it, tomorrow isn’t here yet and no one knows what it may bring so all I have left is today, myself and my cell and if I make the best of what I have today despite the bad circumstances, I’m winning, if I can make it here, I can make it anywhere and that’s all that really matters today!
    keep your head up, stay strong Jodi and always remember, freedom comes from inside of you!
    I pray for both of you!

    Raymond
    Canada doesn’t believe in the death penalty and I don’t either!

  31. Serena /

    September 16, 2014 at 8:36 pm

    Good to know that their resentment and hate does not own you, nor does it directly matter when you look at the big picture. Stay positive! Good things will happen!

  32. raven summer /

    September 17, 2014 at 1:54 pm

    you are a very good writer…extremely articulate. I will be praying for you.

    • E.P. /

      October 18, 2014 at 10:35 pm

      Yes, she is. She’s very good at expressing herself, very fluent and composed in her language. This is one of the hundreds of reasons why I believe her. Deceptive people usually stutter and stumble, and change their story every 5 minutes. Her story has been consistent for a while. I’m not religious and I don’t pray, but I think she appreciates our support greatly.

  33. raven summer /

    September 17, 2014 at 1:57 pm

    I also truely believe that you have all ready been forgiven by the most high..So what ignorant humans think doesnt really matter,.

    • william walter /

      September 18, 2014 at 10:11 am

      Lisa. Coleman has been praying for. Jodi &. Jodi her. Texas killed. Lisa yesterday @6pm…she is now in heaven. It’s unlikely that those that put her there will be able to follow; unless they ask for mercy; something they refused to give. Lisa. God bless her.

      • Jodi Arias /

        December 23, 2014 at 7:22 am

        God bless you, Bill, for your kindness and attention to the forgotten population. While my thoughts are with Lisa, I am reminded of something by one of my favorite authors, Christopher Hitchens:
        “They can deny it’s cruel, they can certainly make it less unusual, but they are still stuck with the task of running a premeditated state killing: Big Government at its worst.”

  34. Casandra /

    September 20, 2014 at 3:00 am

    Jodi, you continue to amaze me day in and day out. What a beautifully written blog. As many have mentioned, here you are, in what I’m sure feels like an awful situation, still trying to keep the positive memories of Travis alive. That has to account for something, too bad many are too ignorant to understand this. You never wanted Travis to appear in a bad light, and you’ve stuck by this from day one. You are a great person and most importantly a wonderful friend. Negativity is everywhere. Some people thrive off of hatred and name calling of others – sad, but true. I also tend to believe that a person expressing negativity about another speaks volumes about that very persons own self. Often times, people have to put others down in order to feel better about themselves. Here, what many people don’t understand is that they haven’t met you – they choose to only know what the media tells them. They let the media drive their perception. Don’t let the haters, the name calling, and most importantly the downright awful remarks phase you. I hope as you lie down for bed each night, you take a second to smile – and even if it is just for one second – smile. Smile because you have a support group so strong and so full of love and faith. We love you. We will stand by you through thick and thin. Nothing but big hugs for you, xoxo.

  35. totolehero /

    September 21, 2014 at 7:57 am

    We live on hate and we go on revenge. Its their society gone bad. The haters will always know they are right because Travis died. But what is their issue mainly? They want and need “justice” , no matter what their perception of the word is. Anything will do as long they dont have to admit that Travis indeed was an abuser.

  36. DaveC /

    September 23, 2014 at 11:02 am

    Don’t listen to them Jodi, they are the weak ones. They should mind their business, and work on the deficiencies in their own lives. Stay strong. Love You!!!

  37. mel /

    September 28, 2014 at 8:33 am

    I am in a abusive relationship , I often question my own sanity as to why I stay, and why nobody sees the hateful man for just that. Abuse is horrible. Especially from a person who professes to love you. I totally get the haters. Its impossible to get people to see what’s really going on. I’ve asked myself a thousand times why doesn’t anyone see the big picture? It’s always so convienient for for friends to stay out of it until u turn it back. U get to a point that u feel completely alone in the world, degraded humiliated and hopeless. I don’t know who I am anymore and it’s amusing to others. That’s because they don’t know ur pain or what u go through. Have faith Jodi, don’t worry about the ignorance of others. U have people out here who believe in u and pray for u. I am one of them~ God bless u.

    • Kathy /

      September 30, 2014 at 3:41 pm

      Please get help…tell your doctor or someone close to you…life doesn’t have to be so dark…it can get better!

    • Jodi Arias /

      December 23, 2014 at 7:32 am

      DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!!! Take pictures, save text messages, upload them to a web-based email (Yahoo! or Gmail–NOT Hotmail because Hotmail deletes things) or cloudspace. Save emails and social media communications. People tried to talk sense into me when I was blind and brainwashed and it didn’t work, so I won’t try to do the same by imploring you to LEAVE. I already know you won’t leave until you’re ready. I hope that day comes soon because life offers so much more than what you’re settling for. You are meant for better things. For now, If you’re going to stay, DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Even if you never do anything with it, it is infinitely better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.

      • Ken Ramnath /

        January 6, 2015 at 5:47 pm

        What you are saying is true. I wish I had listened to my friends in the police when they told me this. It would have allowed me to protect my daughter from the crooked Judge.

  38. Steve Miller /

    September 29, 2014 at 7:46 pm

    Jody’s lawyers destroyed her defense because they didn’t understand the evidence. Here’s a list of facts that prove her innocent.
    1) If she intended to murder him with his own gun or the gun stolen from her grandfather she had all night to shoot him while he slept, but didn’t. That eliminates her intent which was only to have sex.
    2) If she didn’t drop his camera none of this would have happened.
    3) Any person who would slam a girl to the floor and kick her as hard as he could is a degenerate criminal.
    4) Her counsel failed to demonstrate the horror and fright she had when she was attacked. Her fright prevented her from running out the door while he was naked, for her own safety and escape.
    5) The new evidence showing the sucker punch by Ray Rice completely changed the minds of NFL officials of attacks against women and children by psychotic men. Jody needs a demonstration like this to make the judge and jury understand what actually happened.
    6) Travis was a sex deviate who had Jody shave her pubic hair for him to fantacize that she was 6 or 7. He told her he wanted to believe she was 12. 12 year old girls have pubic hair. He knew not to say 6 or 7.
    7) She keeps glorifying him. That is a huge legal mistake because it makes the jury, judge, and media side with his family.
    8) I contacted Wilmot who ignores me and Dr. Samuels.

  39. Kathy /

    September 30, 2014 at 3:35 pm

    I was in an abusive relationship with a man who I had a child with which makes it very difficult to separate yourself. Especially in the 80s. Because even though I had evidence of injuries to my body documented by a doctor while pregnant causing preterm labor requiring hospitalization, and evidence that he was alcoholic, I would have still had to let my daughter visit him alone and I was too frightened for HER…so I stayed until one night I had to flee with both my children under my arms in a snowstorm to neighbors because of his rage…I fought the system…had to let my daughter visit and told that judge if anything happened it would not be MY fault! Finally when her visits made her so sick she missed school every monday afterwards we were able to get them stopped. I stayed away from him no matter how he begged..I put only 100 mi between us but at least I had that. I did not have a supportive family like you have either. It took lots of counseling and now years later my life is very good….you always tell people and show them if you have been injured…at least 1 person preferably a medical individual that can document. And you never ever go back. There was so much evidence of abuse in my case. No one could say that they did not know….

  40. Kathy /

    September 30, 2014 at 3:39 pm

    Also to Steve above..Dr Samuels and Ms Wilmot im sure read your responses to them. Its just because its an ongoing case for their client, Jodis best interest and likely order of the court, they are unable to discuss an ongoing case is all…

  41. John Barksdale Davenport II /

    October 10, 2014 at 11:24 am

    Jodi, I first want to apologize for speaking to you in such a personal way. Given the fact that we’ve never met, one would normally consider such an intrusion rude, and this intrusion is just that, so please forgive my impetuousness along with my ineptness at crafting a sufficiently charming apology. You have fascinated me since I first read of your case in 2008, not because I thought of you as some monster murderer or cold blooded femme fatale but simply because you reminded me of several people I’ve known extrememly well over the years, two of them are ex girlfriends and the third is myself. The love hate attack amend beat down to build up soul slashing insanity toward the one you want to love is something I think I recognoize. In my case, looking back, it was always bourne out of a frustration that someone I thought was perfect and love worthy turned out to be merely human at best or selfish and vindictive at worst, and that would cause the gloves to come off. It is only through the miracle of luck and timing that I do not share your present circumstance, I assure you it is not because we differ in our youthful sense of pride and incomprehensible ability (in hindsight only of course) to place all the blame for our own unhappiness on the doorstep of another person who we somehow also claimed to love and cherish. If I am totally off base in my reading of you and Travis’ relationship dynamic (and I know all relationships are complicated enough that even were one given an extra lifetime to explain their respective ins and outs one still is left with a sketchy bare outline of how things transpired) then I apologize for reading myself into yours and simply wish you the best at being the happiest most joyful person you can imagine yourself into becoming during your long project you have in store ahead of you. If this isn’t an exercise in the power of egotism and the similarity I think I recognize in our relationships with significant others jibes with your take on things, well then I dunno, sharing a history of self destructive immature relationships with people who brought out our worst can’t be the basis for a friendship, can it? lol I don’t want a pen pal to gripe about past relationships with, I was in jail for 9 months several years ago for violating my probation on a drug possession case in Dallas and the last thing I wanted to think about was details of former destructive relationships, and I was fortunate to not have years of scab picking thrust upon me as you did in preparing for and participating in such a lengthy trial. I frankly had a wonderful time in jail, it was the sabbattical I would never have afforded myself had it not been demanded of me, and I tried to take full advantage of the situation, meager as incarceration can seem, I got in great physical shape but more importantly I felt a sense of peace and a sense of spirituality that I can only describe as visceral when I was locked up that I always suspected was there lurking behind the furious pace of life in the world but had never given myself over to seeking or experiencing. i wouldn’t trade that knowledge for anything, those nine months were without question the most enlightening of my 45 years. I hope you have been able to find some of this peace that i remember so fondly, although from what i’ve read you may have been farther along as far as taking your spiritual life seriously than I was before being locked up. But I suspect that had we been at the place spiritually that we found ourselves in behind bars, neither of us would have put ourselves in our respective positions that landed us there in the first place. I dunno if that’s a catch 22 ( I never read the book) or if it’s just ironic or maybe just life, but where ever you go, there you are, and that’s it. No one can see the world through another’s eyes, but with age and experience and an open mind one can get mighty close 🙂 I don’t think we’d have been friends had we met in the real world in person, I have a vicious sense of humor and sarcasm and over the years the mormons and prepaid legal have been the recipients of all the incredulity and disdain I could muster at the fact that these sorts of entities not only existed but were taken seriously. Nevertheless I count some of my best friends among adherents to both the mormon faith and that of prepaid legal. But meeting someone through the end of a pen or the wire leading off a keyboard is an entirely different sort of animal, it forces one to pay attention to one’s expressions in a more focused way, and I think that’s awesome. Rather than take up any more of your time with my rambling, let me just say that I hope this finds you well, I’m not a psychopath, nor do I want to correspond with one, I’ve got many friends including a gazillion wonderful beautiful female friends, so I’m not shopping for romance within the prison walls lol, although I’m not precluding that out come should it come to pass, I just keep thinking to myself that I should write you and say hi because it only seems fair given how much thought I’ve devoted to your case over the years, does that sound creepy as fuck? lol If it does I’m terribly sorry, it’s just the truth. I’m not obsessed, just interested 🙂 So if you find time for one more pen pal I’d be much obliged to continue the correspondence, and of course get you up to speed on who it is you’re dealing with when you see John Davenport show up during mail call, but I don’t want to bore you with my personal details without your permission, to subject you to such banality unnanounced would be more rude than even I should allow myself to be. Again I hope this finds you well and I hope you are able to enjoy and feel at least some of the spirit of love and kindness in which it was written. Take care, JBDII

  42. norma /

    October 10, 2014 at 4:52 pm

    GOd is judge and Jury he works through people Everyone should pray and leave the outcome n his hands because in the end nothing happens unless god allows “Let go and Let God” handle Jodi , will be where God in his mercy shall let her be And , all the people who are casting murder in therir hearts are no different they should also be convicted of murder its in their hearts so they too committed murder. God knows whats in our hearts So remember How you judge ye shall be judged as well

  43. Janice /

    October 24, 2014 at 1:19 am

    I admire your stance,and strength you have to endure each and everyday Jodi.i have not judged you nor will I.i feel so lost not being able to help you.if we had met I know we would of been great friends.ond day at a time Jodi that’s all we have to look forward to.keep your composure and totally ignore the press,they are so evil.i will keep you in my prayers and your family also.you are still someone’s daughter, sister aunt, and to me that counts for something.

  44. val /

    November 5, 2014 at 9:22 pm

    Good luck jodi ! <3

  45. Michelle /

    November 24, 2014 at 7:14 am

    Dear Jodi, I have followed your trial from the start. I really think your attorneys should have used the battered women’s syndrome for your case. I have been married for 10 years people do not understand the damage verbal abuse causes unless they have been there. I too have become numb. Its hard when you love someone that they can rip you apart and bring you up all in the same. Words hurt worse than physical abuse. I have always been told that physical wounds heal… we start to believe what they say…I am a college educated with a career. Nobody knows what we go through because we are ashamed to tell. Its a secret that we keep mostly because I think verbal abusers are narcissists. They are loved by many because they only allow people to see that side of them. But we see the real side. The walking on egg shells, the endless put downs. I truly believe you just broke. I personally Never would have charged you with 1st degree murder nor do I think you deserve death. I am sure people will hate me because I support you but I’ve been you. I understand. Could I break I don’t know. I am sorry but he played with your head, your heart and your emotions. Its not okay. Someone needs to stand up for the millions of us who are verbally abused. Society needs to understand what it does to our psyche. I wish you the best and I will continue to support you. Know that people do understand.
    Take care
    Michelle

  46. RomanDí /

    November 28, 2014 at 9:39 am

    I pray for you everyday,because you dont deserve a death penalty.
    hardly anyone knows how you feel.I hope I believe that everything will change for the better in the end.
    please,stay strong.

    Roman

  47. Gin /

    July 25, 2015 at 12:56 am

    I’m on your side Jodi. I’m so glad I found this site. It’s not littered w cruel words left by trashy people. I think you’re very brave and obviously smart. Seeing the evidence and reading abt case I think you are an abused woman. I was in a similiar situation. I’ve cried many tears over it. I understand the hope women or men have that a narcassistic abusive partner will change. We keep hanging on and trying to please them at the expense of our self esteem. Stay strong. I hope you get out early somehow. The sentence was unfair due to abuse and I have my doubts abt premeditation. If so why was it done later after sexual activity also the crime scene would have been cleaner. I don’t believe putting a camera in a washer is a sign of premeditation or taking pics before the crime is. The premeditation claim is crazy. I love you and please know that there are smart people who look beyond things concerning your case.

  48. vinnie costello /

    August 16, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    Jodi.

    I cant say I followed your story. I saw your name in the news but never thought much of it. Last night I did see the premiere on reelz. I have been in a similar situation. The woman that I loved betrayed me. The sexing messages the calls . The feeling she would be mine forever was all made up by her. Only one day to catch her in bed with another man. I didnt retaliate against her. But mentally I can never let her go. While I dont agree with what you did I understand that when someone owns your inner self. It wrecks you it makes you act out of character. Your mind wonders . I just wanted you to know other people have been tormented like you. Its a horrible feeling.

    Take care

    Vin

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